The much-anticipated explosive interview conducted by Oprah Winfrey with Prince Harry and wife Meghan Markle is now one for the books. Normally I only discuss film and the life lessons such tales impart. But since I am so fond of true stories and given the fact that royal family members rarely give in-depth interviews I thought I would weigh in. Not to mention, 90 million viewers worldwide watched this exclusive discussion so who can resist chatting about the monarch when the heavy curtain has now been pulled back and deep dark royal family secrets are being revealed. There have to be some important life lessons to sort out in this cheeky televised talk. Right?
The royal couple recently sat down with veteran interviewer Oprah Winfrey and openly discussed why they are no longer active working members of the royal family. Throughout the two-hour conversation a number of bombshells were dropped, including suicidal tendencies, racist implications, lack of support, sexism, and imperial lies. Overall the interview was dripping with negative overtones that left audiences feeling very sad, particularly about the fallout between Harry and his family, namely his father Charles and brother William. Oprah did an exceptional job trying to cover all topics of interest effectively and pushed hard for clarity on some of the more vague comments, which left viewers a bit confused at times about what exactly the main problems were with royal life. There were some nice surprises revealed such as the gender of their new baby to be – it’s a girl, that they established a foundation entitled ‘Archewell’ after son Archie, and the fact that they rescued chickens – how lovely. There were also some astonishing remarks. For example, in today’s modern world it seemed quite astounding to hear Meghan did not use the internet to google Harry during their pre-dating/dating phase, or the Windsors during the engagement phase, or the press coverage after the marriage. Odd since the couple alluded it was this unfair media reporting that was the crushing epicenter, which caused the dissension that then led to the ongoing family issues– or was it?
When anyone does this type of ‘tell-all’ interview what is the main meaning behind it? What is the end goal? What is it that you want to achieve? Is it that people want to be heard, or is it that they want people to know their pain, or is it just to clear the air? Protecting vs. Revealing – ‘Like all the best families, we have our share of eccentricities, of impetuous and wayward youngsters and of family disagreements.’ – Queen Elizabeth. Family dynamics are complicated and as a skilled interviewer myself I always listen carefully to what people say because when they speak it’s always what they reveal after the ‘but’ that they really want you to hear. Think about it – ‘I love you – but…’, ‘I would hire you – but…’, ‘I would go out with you – but…’ , I would stay – ‘but…’ If you really want to know what Meghan and Harry want the public to know listen to what they say after the ‘but’ – everything you need to know in any conversation comes after the ‘but…’, just remember that.
P.S. As luck would have it I happened to be in London visiting my son at university when Prince Harry and Meghan Markle were married at Windsor Castle on May 19th 2018, and like many I wished the best for the newlyweds. Having lived in England myself for years I have always had a warm affinity for the royal family. Also, as a Canadian, Canada is part of the Commonwealth, so I have grown up with the presence of the royal family, which includes Queen Elizabeth on our currency. In short, the Hart family feels very connected to Britain. I admire many members of the royal family (past and present) for all the good humanitarian work they do for their country and others. Therefore, I will always hope for the best for this family who experience problems just like the rest of us. Bless.